4 and 6-year-old kids ruin their aunt’s engagement party, she refuses to invite them to her wedding despite sister-in-law’s demands: “Do you have them or something?”

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    AITA for telling my SIL she can’t bring her Kids to my Wedding because they ruined my engagement party?

    "They're just kids!"
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    My fiancé (21M) and I (19F) are getting married in a few months. We are planning a small, elegant wedding with close family and friends. From the start, we made it clear that our wedding would be child-free-not because we don't like kids, but because we want a formal atmosphere without disruptions. Most of our family and
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    friends were understanding, except for my sister-in-law, who has two kids (4M and 6F).
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    For context, SIL has a habit of ignoring boundaries when it comes to her children. At my engagement party last year, she brought them despite the event being at a fancy venue with an open bar. Within an hour, they had knocked over a tray of champagne glasses, smeared cake all over a rented couch, and screamed through the speeches. I
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    love my fiancé's family, but it was embarassing, and SIL just laughed it off, saying, "They're just kids!"
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    When we sent out weding invitations, we included a polite note stating it was an adults-only event. SIL called me immediatly, asking if we could "make an exception" for her kids. I calmly explained that we wanted a child- free wedding and reminded her of what happened at our engagement party. She got defensive, saying,
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    "They'll behave this time, I swear!" I stood my ground and said, "I'm sorry, but we're keeping it adults- only." She hung up in a huff.
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    Then, last weekend at a family gathering, she brought it up again in front of everyone, saying, "I can't believe you're excluding your own niece and nephew from your wedding. Do you hate them or something?" I firmly said, "Of course not, but this is our wedding, and we want it to be the way we planned." She got even more upset,
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    saying I was being unreasonable and that "family should come first."
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    Now, my fiancé is caught in the middle. He supports me but also doesn't want to create a family feud. His mom has even suggested that we "just let it go" to keep the peace. But I feel like if I cave, it'll send the message that our boundaries don't matter.
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    So, AITA for refusing to allow my SIL to bring her kids to our wedding after what happened at our engagement party?
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    Sensitive-Ad-54... • 16h ago Now, my fiancé is caught in the middle. That's straight up a lie and bulls
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    His mom has even suggested that we "just let it go" to keep the peace. His entire family has zero respect for boundaries, because they're too chickenshit to say a firm no. Good luck marrying into this mess.
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    sparkledcupcake • 16h ago NTA its your wedding and SIL already showed she can't control her kids, and you have every right to want a peaceful, elegant event.
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    Striking-Regular-551 • 16h ago This is almost the same story from yesterday about an adult only dinner party!
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    Fantastic_Guess8008 . 16h ago I mean nta but why are you getting married at 19?
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    Necessary-Corner3... 16h ago Calling BS on this one. Other posts are of her toes, not sure that squares with small elegant wedding.
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    AssignmentOld 9718 16h ago Allow her to come... if she agrees to foot the bill for whatever damage they cause. Including ruined photos, videos and items of guests they happen to destroy.
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    TheInternetSleuth04 • 16h ago NTAH, If your soon-to-be SIL can't keep her kids under control after you made it clear it was child-free and she ignored it. I would tell her that due to her disregard for your wishes at your engagement party, it's either she shows up
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    without the kids or she can't come to the wedding. Sincerely someone who had something similar happen at my wedding last year.
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    ParticularPath7791 • 16h ago Not the, 1. Her children clearly can't behave and you should have the wedding you want. Stand your ground girl.

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